Day 49

Day 49

Friday, May 16, 2014

This day was not as “good” as yesterday but still not a bad day.  It is a bit of a sad comment on my self esteem that “bad company” is better than no company!  OK, that’s not really fair .. not “bad” company.  But TGF (and son) was fine with just sitting around watching TV and nothing else.  She got most of her laundry done; but nothing else.  We didn’t touch any of the things on the shelf.  It was a gorgeous day outside, but still nothing got done.

After she left, I got a very brief spurt of energy, and got the stuff left on the hall shelves better organized and consolidated.  There’s still too much, because I’m still waiting for people to come and claim some thngs they’d like (but I don’t know specifically what, so have to keep all of it until they do).  Now it’s going to be harder to “connect”, but since I don’t get much communication, I guess it won’t matter.

Anyway, as I said, at least it’s not spread out so much.

I also moved the treadmill into the bedroom.  I always forget how much more comfortable I am in this room (sewing/computer) when it’s less cluttered.  If everyone Ever finishes getting their big stuff out of the bedroom, I can set up the treadmill in their.  For now there’s a TV in there, maybe I’ll actually use it (the treadmill).

Last night DS called.  So, we finally have it figured out about next week.  I had thought only to be there a couple of days, but it’s not turning into nearly a week.  He will come get me Sunday afternoon; the concerts are Monday and Tuesday; and there’s a banquet on Thursday.  Either DIL will bring me home Friday morning .. or, if she’s not feeling well, DS will bring me before he goes to work.  (that will make him late, but it’s OK, he makes up the time – has done that before).

I will be home today and part of tomorrow.  Then I’ll be home next Friday (but have an appointment in Durham, so really won’t be home until late afternoon), and Saturday through Tuesday.  Sometime on Wednesday DIL (unknown yet if DS will come too … he’s not sure he’s comfortable leaving the kids with someone else right in the middle of end of term testing) will pick me up and we’ll go on to Winston Salem.  I have no idea right now exactly when I’ll get home again .. sometime in the first week of June.

So far, the only plans for June are one doctor appointment (a specialist about the inflammation in my eyes), and the day trip to the Outer Banks on the 14^th. 

I had originally thought I’d be home most of May .. but seems I’m ending up spending a lot of it in New Bern.  I’m very grateful that they want me there and are sharing so much of the kid’s activities (things I’ve missed out on for several years).  I’m not getting my house as in order as I’d hoped; but there are too many things waiting on other people still.  I had told DSS he could take his time sorting and getting out the things of his dad’s he was taking home with him.  I just didn’t expect him to take *this* much time!  The thing is, he’s not sorting it at home either.  All the boxes are still sitting where he put them.  Well, couldn’t be *ALL* of them, because he said he used the cabinets to organize and store some of it.  He told me he would bring the large totes he emptied back and take all the misc. stuff that is piled up on 3 folding tables in the middle of the room.  And most of that stuff has been there 6 weeks or more … it is seriously in the way.  I feel like I need to “finish” dealing with everything so I can move on with whatever comes next.

But the flip side is, the less time I spend at home, the less electricity I’m using, and the less food (although that’s an “iffy” subject .. I can’t help but feel like if someone else feeds me for a week at a time, I should be helping out.  Not sure how much that applies at DS’s house .. they rarely seem to have much there, and a lot of days all I can find is some bread-and-butter until a very late at night supper).

Last night I didn’t take the melatonin; but I was feeling achy, so took some Aleve.  Since I’ve not been nearly as active the last 7 weeks, I quit taking it every day.  But I believe it helped me sleep .. I thnk sometimes maybe part of what keeps me from going back to sleep if I wake too early is the one foot aching a lot.  I woke around 5:00, a little chilly; got a heavier cover, and went back to sleep until around 6:30.  I feel more awake than I did yesterday …. So thinking the melatonin is fine, but only when I have a day with NO plans and can just sleep late and rest up.  That sounds silly .. seems like all I do is “rest”.  Oh well.  Maybe I’ll just save it for winter .. I definitely will want to stay under quilts longer when it’s cold and dark! 

Today I hope to do some routine house cleaning and catch up laundry (again).  There is still some rearranging I’d like to do … but, I’m forced to wait for  DSS to come get the stuff he’s getting, and I just don’t have room for moving things until then.  Actually, I’d really like to have MY folding hand truck back to help with the things I want to rearrange; but I’ve been asking for over a year and a half, so I guess that’s just not going to happen.  I know DS has a set of those furniture moving pads (the ones they used to advertise on TV that you could move a car with one hand) .. I’ll try to remember to borrow those.  Although I’ve managed to move all but the really biggest things by myself  … most of my life I’ve had no choice anyway.  (you know .. if you want something done, do it yourself!).

It’s not going to be so hot today, so I don’t feel the need to hurry and get anything done early.   And no one will be showing up here by 8:15, so no need to rush into the shower (nearly 8:00 now).  But I imagine the cats are wondering where I am with feeding time! LOL!  They’ll have to get used to it .. they won’t get fed until late afternoon while I’m gone (when TGF can come by after picking the boys up from school). 

I have never been comfortable just sitting around in my night clothes.  Even though I spend many days here alone .. I guess I’m the eternal optimist.  I feel like I need to be showered and dressed, right down to earrings, “in case” someone shows up at the door!  So, time to go on and get the day started one way or another.