Wednesday, April 8, 2015

March Adventures

I spent 17 days in March 2015 travelling with my brother an sister in law, which included a week with my other brother and sister in law..  It was a FANTASTIC  experience.  I can't really post every detail; but I kept a bit of a journal, and I will try to recapture some of the trip.
We  went from Raleigh to Savannah on the first day, and "camped" (like travelling in a luxury hotel!!) in a nice KOA.
We spent 4 days in the Savannah area.  The time there included an afternoon in Bonaventure Cemetary (including locating a family plot); a day on Tybee Island (more family history) at the lighthouse and Fort Scriven; and more time at Fort Pulaski.
We took a trolley tour of old Savannah ... even though it was an overcast, chilly, blustery day it was a wonderful tour.  The various tour guides were knowledgeable and fun.  We were able to get off and on as we chose, and it was all grand ... I do hope to go back again (and again and again) and do more of the sites.
Our last day was rainy, but it politely held off in time for us to revist a few places.
On Saturday we headed south.  We had lunch with a lovely young lady who was a great friend of our parents, and then on to Ocala.  We had about a day and a half with mama's cousin (our 2nd cousin I think?), including 2 dinners out at terrific restaurants.
We headed west on Monday, nad went as far as Pensacola.  On Tuesday we went to Biloxi (well, just out of) to the Jefferson Davis home.  It's a lovely place, and has been most wonderfully restored after devastation from Katrina.
And, I waded in the Gulf of Mexico.
That night we continued to a KOA just out of New Orleans.
On Wednesday we travelled over some of the worst roads I've ever experienced until we got to Texas.  We stopped at the Texas Visitor's Center .. super nice place.  By that evening we arrived at The Woodlands, where our younger brother and sister in law live.
We spent a week there, and I totally enjoyed that visit.  We went out a few times to see some of the sights of both The Woodlands and Houston.
I had a really great time.
On Wednesday, March 25th, in the evening (after a full day of more sightseeing and another great meal out) I flew back to Raleigh.

I've left out so very many details ... but every minute of the trip was a most fantastic trip-of-a-lifetime experience.  I hope in the future to get more chances to travel in the motorhome; and also to visit Texas more often.  But this first trip will always be special!

After arriving home, on Saturday I went to New Bern for a week.  I got to attend the high school honors band concert... my multi talented granddaughter is a member (flute and piccolo).  I also got to attend 2 soccer games in which my grandson was (in my opinion of course) a star player.

I will post some pictures from my trip in a separate post.

Disclaimer:  I can't get this page to enlarge, so please overlook any and all tyos!! :)

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

A Lot of Days Later

I have not updated in a very long time now.  There hasn’t seemed to be much point.  There is nothing in particular going on in my life that anyone would be interested in reading about. 
I once used to blog to express thoughts, feelings, emotions.  But since I received so much negative feedback, I quit.  It has been suggested that I make my blog “private”.  Well, I never advertised or invited anyone to read it … my take is that if someone doesn’t like what I say, they don’t have to read it.  But no one has the right to criticize how I feel.

We have been in the apartment 5 months.   I do not know what will happen this summer, but I know this arrangement can’t continue.  I accept that it’s all my fault.  Clearly I didn’t take good enough care of my husband, so he died.  Clearly I did something awful (don’t yet know what) that has caused me to be osing my vision.  And of course the only reason I have any trouble getting along now is that *I* have an attitude problem.  It’s up to me to adjust to everyone else’s temperament or attitude or emotional issues or whatever.

The weekend before Thanksgiving I went to the Christmas parade, which I enjoyed very much (especially the marching bands …. Which have always been my favorite part even when vision wasn’t an issue).  I did miss going to the Meadow Lights as I had done for the previous 15 years on that weekend.  Well, life has changed and I have no more “traditions”. 
Thanksgiving was spent at my sister’s house where both of my brothers (and all in-laws of course) were also visiting.  I very much enjoyed the time with family.
In December I spent a week with my son and his family, which was very nice.
On Christmas Eve my brother and sister in law took me to the Christmas Eve service at the church I’ve been attending.
I spent Christmas Day at my sister’s house.
On my birthday my brother, sister in law, and sister took me out to lunch at a very nice restaurant I had never been to before.
On New Year’s Eve my son and 2 grands (daughter in law was in CA with her parents) came to visit.  We went downtown to see the “Acorn drop” and fireworks.  On New Year’s Day they took me by my sister’s house where they stayed and watched the parade before heading home.  I spent the rest of the day there.
On the first Saturday in January my step-son, his girlfriend, and their combined 6 boys came to visit for a bit under 2 hours in the evening.  It was the only time I got to see my 2 GA grandsons, or any of the rest of them.

The Society for the Blind has been helpful, although everything with them takes weeks and months to happen.  I’m still waiting for one small item I was promised in early November.  However, the library (for the blind) has been most helpful.  I have a tape player and they send books on tape.  I seem to listen to them faster than they can send, and I frequently have gaps with no books.  And, occasionally their choices seem a bit odd (I did have to call and let them know I really wasn’t interested in listening to “Ware and Peace”).  After several months of waiting, I do have a talking clock which is useful.  And I have  a magnifier that is connected to a TV (small one not being used) that is very helpful.  There is a taxi service available but I’m waiting for assistance with the paperwork for that.  It has limitations but will still be useful in some ways, eventually.

I’ve enjoyed going to church, although that becomes more limited in winter.  I can no longer go on Wednesday nights because it’s simply too cold and dark to risk taking the bus (too far to walk to get to and from the bus).   Occasionally there’s an issue with a ride on Sunday morning, but not very often. 
I also go to a senior’s group that is actually through Parks and Recreation, but meets at the church.  They usually have a speaker with some sort of useful information, and a very nice lunch.

Otherwise, for the most part I get “out” to walk up to the laundry room; or take trash to the dumpster.  Maybe once a week or so I walk to the shopping center .. to the bank, or the drug store, or the Chik-Fil-A.  Every other week or so I walk up to the grocery store  … either on my own or to meet my roommate.  I don’t much care for those excursions as they are exhausting and mean carrying home what always ends up being a fairly heavy tote.

The bulk of my days, especially weekends, is rocking.  Or sitting here at the computer .. but I do less and less of that.  I do have a new computer .. purchased from a company who builds computer for the blind.  But the components are sitting on the desk, unattached.  So far no one has had time or inclination to get it connected.  Once it is plugged up, I still won’t be able to use it .. it will have to be converted to accept wireless internet.  Thanksfully it was very inexpensive, so I can just keep on using the laptop as long as I’m able (and it holds up).


I am looking forward to a trip in March.  That’s a long time off right now, and I know anything can happen.  But I choose to be optimistic, because I really need something to look forward to!

Friday, November 7, 2014

Day 75

One NEW Day At A TimDay 19 & 2
Day 75
Friday November 7,  2014

I have not felt like writing for awhile now.  When I originally started this blog, I certainly had no idea of the direction it would take in only a year and a half.  I probably should have made the blog private; but because I never actually told anyone about it, I didn’t bother.  As it turned out, it was sort of accidently discovered; and then shared.  Since it wasn’t “private”, I didn’t object.  So can you imagine how disturbing it was to begin to get negative feedback and critical comments.  Not from everyone, of course.  But any at all is a problem.  It means I’m being told that I’m not supposed to ever tell anyone how I feel.  I’m supposed to only be all sunshine and rainbows, a regular Pollyanna.  Well, I have a newsletter for that.  It is a desperately lonely existence to feel like no matter what happens, no one cares; they don’t want to hear about it.  I realize that in general, when someone says “how are you?”, they don’t want an honest answer; they want you to say “fine”.  And the majority of the time I do that, because I do understand that people don’t care.  But there are some people that *should* care  … not everyone … and I wonder if there’s an element of guilt involved; some people (again, I emphasize, not all) want to believe everything really is “fine” so there’s no guilt when they go on about their busy and interesting lives with no thoughts of me at all.
So, that is my convoluted explanation why I just won’t bother to write very often.  Here is a brief update on what’s been going on in my tiny little wordl.
Three weeks ago I went to my 50th high school class reunion.  One lady .. someone I knew by name only in HS … gave me a ride downtown where we took the bus tour of the city (with classmates who have lived and worked here all their lives gave a running commentary on what has and hasn’t changed).  Then we went to one of the nicer parks for a catered picnic.  During the afternoon there was a school tour; but I decided not to do that, as I knew I’d be too tired to enjoy the evening.  I took a nap instead.  Another lady .. one I’ve known since 2nd grade (although we did not run in the same circles) gave me a ride to the (very fancy elegant) dinner.  She was extremely kind, and made sure I was not left standing alone anywhere.  After a bit of roaming and meeting people (and it’s really funny how many people claimed to “remember” me, although in 3 years of HS they never spoke a word to me!).  They found a table with 3 seats so I didn’t have to just stand around and she was free to roam.  Her husband brought me a glass of wine.  When it came time for dinner, she was very careful to take me through the line, tell me what each item was, and serve a plate for me.  Oh my!  It was way too much most excellent food!  The dessert table had many varieties of mini tarts.  She selected a plateful of different ones (and at the end of the evening insisted on wrapping up the ones left for me to take home). 
After the evening, though I did make an effort, I have not remained in touch with anyone.That’s not a surprise.  Merely having graduated together does not automatically mean we have anything in common.

Two weeks ago I had a nice long weekend with my son and his family.  My DIL drove up on Wednesday evening.  On Thursday afternoon we went back to their home.  Friday night was the HS homecoming football game .. DGD16 is in the marching band (although they didn’t perform since the half time was for the homecoming court).  I loved listening to the band!  On Saturday morning DGS13 had a soccer game, which they won.  On Sunday afternoon they had another playoff game.  Sadly, they lost that one; but it was close and they played well. On Monday DIL and I came back here.  She left very early Tuesday morning for a doctor appointment.  She spent Tuesday night in a hotel (partly due to still waiting on information as to whether she needed to come back the next day).   She came back here Wednesday.
Wednesday night she went with DN and I to the church supper.  It was their Halloween night, so there were dozens (maybe hundreds?) of costumes!  We had pizza, and played some bingo (I actually won a game!!  I do not normally win stuff, so that was exciting).   
The next day, Thursday, she headed home.  However, she did wait until afternoon.  I  had planned to go to a senior’s group meeting; but at the last minute a lady called who is the low-vision specialist I had been waiting to hear from.  She wanted to come over, so I didn’t go to the meeting.  My DIL stayed while the lady came.  After going through many different magnifiers, she settled on a very strong one that seemed to work the best.  In the end, she ended up promising me several different “goodies”; but I have to wait for them to be ordered.  She said she would try to get the order in with time for me to have things by Thanksgiving (which is still another 3 weeks off).
That Friday was Halloween, though of course there were no little trick-or-treaters here.  The weekend was what is more normal for me … very quiet and alone.  DN spends most weekends with her boyfriend.  I have mixed feelings there … yes, a lot of the time I feel lonely.  But I do not feel “less lonely” if she’s at home … just more stressed.  I’m always afraid I’m going to say or do something to spark  an “eisode”.  So I try to mostly just stay in my room. 
My room is nice.  It’s huge, and I love my big bright window.  It’s still a bit of a work-in-progress, but I’m ever closer to having it neat and organized, and the things I love most or need most easily accessible.
I did not get to go to church on Sunday.  A marathon had the street (which includes entrance to the parking lot) closed for 2 hours.  And as it turned out, my usual ride wasn’t available anyway.  So, again, a quiet weekend .. which except for Sunday morning is  pretty much usual.
On Monday a man from the blind society (no, wait, that should be “Blind Society” .. it’s their name, not a description!!) came out.  He will be my counselor (hereafter referred to as LS), and we spent over 2 hours going over various paperwork.  At first it looked like I don’t even qualify for assistance … my income seems to be right on the edge.  But he did some calculations, including expenses for health insurance and such … and yes, I do qualify.  I signed 4 or 5 forms officially requesting various aids or services … I don’t even remember everything.  It is quite astonishing what is available (but only in this country, in this city .. most others don’t have the funding for so much help).  I don’t know how long I have to wait for anything;  I do know the classes they have for technical assistance isn’t until March.  So, I wait and see what happens.  One thing LS did, though, is put me in contact with a lady he thought I’d get along with.  I’ve talked to her briefly (she was on the way somewhere), but she said she’d call me later.  So, I wait. 
All those events are out of the ordinary.  My days are in somewhat of a routine now.  DN leaves for work around 8:40.  I wake up when she gets up (usually I’m already awake), and turn my TV on for morning news.  I turn on the computer and do the newsletter.
After she leaves, I get coffee and do up any dishes (usually from supper and her breakfast.  I’ve told her I don’t mind doing that when she’s working … but don’t ever fix herself something to eat and then wallow on the sofa in fromt of the TV and leave me her dishes!). 
I check email, occasionally check other blogs (only family ones, to see …as best I can … pictures).  Occasionally I have email to answer, but not often. (except one dear faithful BFF).
My mornings are organized by “Kelly and Michael” … “Rachel” … “Price Is Right” … noon news … “The Chew”.  For a long time that was followed by “The Talk” … “Let’s Make A Deal”  and “Ellen”.  I’ve begun turning the sound off for those and listening to a book.  Of all the options I have, the CDs from the library are not working out well.  My portable CD player doesn’t seem to have a “pause” option.  But, I can get a couple of books a montn on my Kindle.  And the tape player from the Library for the Blind is working out well …  although I will need to call them to see if I can request specific books or authors.  So far I’m just getting random selections … some of which are good, some not so much.  The player is the easiest of all my options to use … giant buttons, plus every button speaks it’s function!

Not every day follows that exact routine, but most do.  Some days I walk to the bank or the library (usually both on the same day because they’re across the street from each other).  I can walk to the drug store; and if I feel really ambitious, all the way to the grocery store.
Note: I have learned that the best thing for me to do is buy my own “stash” of the things I want … my coffee, snacks, lunch and even some breakfast items.  DN does try, but she is not at all good at managing the grocery budget; and she doesn’t really comprehend buegeting as far as I can tell.  Plus she does a lot of impulse shopping. Sometimes she brings things home that she says she got for me … but she doesn’t ask me first, and it’s sort of hit or miss whether she got something I actually like or would eat.   I worked out a weekly food budget … but she rejected it because she said she didn’t understand the math).

There are also days I have to wlak down to the laundry room.  I try to match doing laundry with taking trash to the dumpster, but trash fills more often than the laundry basket!

On Wednesday nights we go to church for supper and whatever the program is each week.  I’ve resigned myself to paying for DN … she always says she has no money;  but her newest idea is to go with me and sit and watch me eat and say how good it looks.    So I revised my budget .. had to figure out what to cut out … so I can pay for both of us because I don’t want to give it up.
On (most) Thursdays I go to a senior’s meeting.  They meet at the church for lunch and a program of some sort.  They also do a lot of “filed trips”.  A lady picks me up and brings me home; but if she didn’t, I could take a bus since I now know how to be sure the driver lets me off at the right place.
On Sunday morning another niece picks me up around 8:00.  I go to early service, Sunday school, and regular service.  Then she takes me home.
At some point during the week .. usually weekends, unless DS/BIL are coming over, I try to get cleaning done.  I have long since given up hope of DN contributing in any way.  It’s a matter of picking my battles .. and it’s a daily one just to pick up general clutter … such as clear the bathroom counter, or straighten the living room.

Evenings are mostly spent with my TV; and occasionally if there’s nothing I want to watch, (like election results!) I will listen to a book.  I very rarely watch TV in the living room.  DN prefers the room pitch dark, which pretty much limits my going in there at all once the sun goes down.  But truthfully,  my vision is so limited that I do better with my big TV that I can sit closer to.
I also keep a running list of “projects”.  I am slowly chipping away; and none of them are “urgent” (although my goal is to have as many as possible done by Thanksgiving, when some family members will see the apartment for the first time, or the first time “put together”). I try to tackle a few of the items each week … but I have found I get more done if I just go with it when I feel inspired or ambitious and don’t fight it when I’m feeling tired or down or whatever and want to just sit here and rock. 
I rock a lot.  I don’t know why, but that is what helps me cope .. just sit and rock.  Watching TV or listening to a book; occasionally just dozing with Maggie in my lap (though she mostly prefers the window sill unless it gets cold).
At the moment, there are not many projected plans.  I think DN’s boyfriend is coming to supper tonight.  I have no idea if she is going to his house for the weekend or not.  (she recently “broke up” with him for being too boring .. but she requires being “entertained” at all times, and he can’t do that.  But, they’re “working things out” so I really have no idea what the status is now).  Sunday is church.  My DIL has an appointment Tuesday afternoon.  My son and the kids are off Monday and Tuesday, so I don’t know yet what their schedule will be .. may or may not come Monday night (but I suspect not, although it will make a very long exhausting day for DIL).  The kids get to stay with me Tuesday while parents go on to the appointment.  That will be a first, and I hope they won’t be bored.  At 16 and 13, I don’t know how to “entertain” them other than maybe walk up to McD for lunch.
The Wednesday night program is a series .. leading up to Thanksgiving .. on gratitude.  That’s a tough one, but I’m working on it. I have to figure out how to get past so much sadness, frustration, loneliness, discouragemtnt, resentment, and depression.
On Thursday the senior group is going on a tour of a Salvation Army facility (can’t really say that sounds exciting! LOL) and then to Olive Garden for lunch.  That’s a bit out of my budget, but I will tighten somewhere else.
Other than possibly hearing from LS about anything, the next few weeks just repeat the same pattern (except senior group won’t have field trips every week of course).


I have taken up a huge chunk of this morning updating .. don’t expect it again any time soon! J

Monday, October 13, 2014

Day 50

One NEW Day At A TimDay 19 & 2
Day 50
Monday, October 13,  2014

I originally started this blog as a way to track my husband’s rogress through trying to get him into a hospice program, and then following the rest of his life.  After he died, I start numbering over the days alone.  When I moved, I started again to number the days in my new life.
I’ve been here 50 days.    I don’t anticipate any major changes in my life now.  And, I’ve quite often received negative feedback for writing what I’m feeling.    Considering that it’s getting so much harder to even write, I’ve decided there’s no point in continuing.

If there are any “major” changes in my life I will post.  Otherwise, this blog will remain silent.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

More Day 49

...I was running a little late for church, so now is the continuation.

After the picnic there was a tour of the school.  At the last minute I decided to pass on that.  I just wasn't at all sure my energy level would hold up!  So I came on back to the apartment, put my feet up and took a nap!
I still had plenty of time to get ready for the evening.   But, after I was all ready . with about 20 minutes to go ... I was so hot I couldn't stand it!  So at the last second I changed my mind about what to wear.    Instead of the pretty blue dress, I wore black p=culottes, a bronzy satin "shell", and a think purle print blousy type jacket.  It turned out either one would have been fine, there was a huge variety of fashion there.  But I was comfortable!
My ride picked me up about 6:10 I think.  She was a girl I've known since 2nd grade, although never "close" friends, and her husband.  by the time they got here it was raining pretty hard, and he walked up to the door (I was waiting on the tiny covered "porch") with an umbrella.  Very gentlemanly! :)
The supper was held at the country club .. very elegant place.  I've certainly never been there before, I am not in *that* social circle!  I would have been lost; but my friend stayed right by my side most of the time.  She made a point of finding a table with room for 3 (and turned out someone else had saved us seats at a table).  We walked around a bit, and I was amazed and the people I met who claimed to "remember" me! LOL!!  These are peopple who never once even spoke to me in 3 years of high school  (and a few of them even go back as far as 1stfirst grade!)  But there were also people I did know, and was delighted to see .. a few had never been to any of the other reunions.  There was a girl whose family and our had been friends, often had supper at each other's homes.  There were several of "mama's girls" ... ladies who had gone through 11 years of scouting with mama as troop (or ship) leader.  I often found myself wanting to tell mama I saw this person or that, and having to remember that I couldn't.
When I got to the point that I felt I might get too wobbly or achy if I stood any longer, I went on and sat at the table.  It was quite interesting listening to some of the conversations swirling around me!   From time to time someone would come up and talk a minute; and occasionally my friend would come back bringing someone to say hello.  She was very good at making sure I didn't feel "alone" even though I was.   Her husband brought me a glass of wine.
When it was time to eat, she made sure to go with me, help identify the various items (there was a LOT of food .. as there should have been for that price!).  We got a little of everything.  It was all excellent, though I couldn't eat it all (and she finished hers .. and is totally skinny.  there is no justice! LOL).  On the desert table they had a variety of tiny   (bite size) tarts.  She got several, and later on I did try one.  When we left there were about 3 left on the plate, which she inissted on wrapping up for me to bring home.
After the food part, there were a few announcements, which were hard to hear because the conversations continued.  Then they played music, mostly from 50 years ago!  I enjoyed that.  I suspect the braver souls were dancing; but I was too far away, andd behind standing crowds, to tell.
It was pretty late . for us old folks .. when we left.  I was so exhausted!

I really had a good time.  I know I'm highly unlikely to see or hear from many .. if any at all ... of these classmates.  If I wasn't "close" before, I'm not suddenly going to be now.    That's kind of sad; but it's just the way things are.

At church today many people spoke.  A few more that I hadn't met introduced themselves.  I'm beginning to have a sense of belonging, which is nice.  I feel like I should have something to contribute.  Eventually I will.
For now, I think maybe I'm just still in "healing" mode.    I spend a lot of time in my room, just rocking .. either listening to TV or to a book.  At some point I will be ready to move on.  
Most of the new friends I''ve made at church do not know it's only been 6 months since I lost my husband.  It's not come up, and no reason why it should.  I'm trying to move on and not looking for a pity party.  In my age range, I'm far from the only widow!!  And while they realize I'm vision impaired, they're  letting me retain enough dignity to find my own way .. and always someone available if I need to ask for help.  

DN won't be home today.  It's too damp (not raining hard but sprinkly) and chilly to go anywhere else.  So I guess today I'll just continue listening to my odd book.

Day 49

One NEW Day At A TimDay 19 & 2
Day 49
Sunday, October 12,  2014

Friday was a fairly quiet “ordinary” day.  I did walk up and get a manicure and pedicure.  Then I walked over to the bank.  And walked on home after that.  I pretty much spent the rest of the day doing nothing, just sitting in my room.  I listened to some more of a strange book, watched some tV.
Saturday morning I got up early.  Actually, I woke way too early; but was scared that if I went back to sleep I’d oversleep.  I set my timer for an hour and tried to relax, but sleep was over.  I got up, got showered and dressed.  A friend from high school (actually, a lady I knew by name only back then) and her SO came and picked me up.  The first thing we did was go to downtown.  There is a free bus that only goes through the main downtown area .. and all of the class that wanted the tour met and rode that (took 2 busses).  Two classmates who have remained residents told us about a lot of the things that have changed over the last 50 years.  Even though I couldn’t really see the things they were pointing out, I did remember most of the “landmarks” and enjoyed the tour.
From there we went to the park.  Honestly, I didn’t enjoy that *quite* as much, but still glad I went. 

I’m running out of time before my ride to church … TBC

Friday, October 10, 2014

Day 47

One NEW Day At A TimDay 19 & 2
Day 47
Friday, October 10,  2014

Yesterday was another half busy and half lazy day.  I woke early, dozed off and on and then went on and got up and got showered and dressed for the day.  I had a ride to the senior’s meeting (GAC), and she came early.  I didn’t mind that, I was ready.  It’s nice to begin to “recognize” people.  The speaker was a sports photographer from the newspaper.  He was interesting to listen to, although the slide show of his hotos .. even though on a giant screen .. were of little interest to me.  Occasionally I could make out something in the image, but for the most part it was light and dark shapes or blobs of color.  I just couldn’t help thinking how much DH would have enjoyed it!  And to top it off, lunch was one of his favorite dishes, Brunswick stew.  I felt sad, and a little down; but at least not weepy.
I was home by 1:30, with nothing else to do.  I guess my sadness manifested itself in drowsiness.  Even Maggie spent most of the afternoon sleeping in my lap.
DS did come by at one point.  (Interesting fact: even though one wall of my room is the stair wall, and I can usually hear people going up and down the stairs, I could not hear her knock at the kitchen door.  We need a doorbell!)   She had brought DN some pants for work, and got us each a sweatshirt.  DN’s has something about candy .. mine has witch’s boots on it! J  Goes well with my witch hat.
She asked about what I am looking for to hold my computer .. (a shop she wants to check out) … but that discussion evolved into my looking for something to organize and contain my growing collection of “listening toys” (Kindle, tape player, CD player).  It turns out she has a dresser stuffed unused into a closet that will fit the space and work perfectly!  Plus, the extra storage space will let me clear off other areas .. which may ultimately help with the where-to-put-the-computer issue.  DN will get BF to bring it here, but can’t be until next weekend.  That’s fine.

DN found a burst of energy or motivation or something, and made up a cheese dip she’d found a recipe for … it is excellent.
In the evening I called the girl who offered me a ride on Saturday morning.  I spoke with her a few minutes; and she will call me Saturday morning to cofirm what time she’s picking me up.  I tried to call SIL to thank her for something she sent in the mail .. but had to leave a message.
And that’s it for my day.
Last night was better.  I woke around 4:00 as seems to be usual; but was able to get right back to sleep.  I didn’t wake until after 7:00.  Today I plan to try to get a mani/pedi … and *maybe* see if the hair salon has time to fit me in for a trim.  I think if I can get my hair a little neater looking I can wear it down (sometimes) and not all pinned up always.  Maybe.  I also need to go by the bank; I can’t remember if I have other errands or not.
DN asked if she can go with me.   I’d rather go alone, but I told her she can as long as she’s aware I’m going places where she might have to just wait.  It’s not yet 9:00 … I’m dressed, she’s not up.  I’ll wait a little, but don’t want to wait too late since I don’t have appointments and don’t know how busy the places will be. 
Either way, it’s time to get off the computer and decide what I’ll do and when