Day 118

Day 118

Thursday, July 24, 2014

This day started out quiet, went through a remarkably busy spell, and ended with just a trace of a sour note.  Some things I just have to learn to live with; but I already knew that.

I was, as usual, first up.  I was here, trying to be quiet, until everyone else began stirring.  DIL and I had a little time for a quiet chat about her visit with her family.  Gradually DN and the grands woke and joined us (technically DN was already up, but watching TV in the den I think).  At some point I took time to run get a quick shower and dress.  While we were sitting around visiting, SIL came by.  Her truck is having some sort of issue, and she’s been avoiding driving it.  But, she’s only 3 miles down the road, and was going “stir-crazy” she said.  So we all visited awhile.  It was looking very dark and threatening outside again by late morning, so she decided to head back home.  DGS13 put 2 bookcases I had promised her into her truck, and then rode home with her to help get them out.

DIL and the grands got their things together and were on their way home by around noon.  DN and I had a list of things to do; by the end of the day, I think we had done all but one … and I told her not to worry about that one, TGF will help me later.  I didn’t get any actual boxes packed, but still a lot was accomplished in sorting,  and making menus plans, chore charts, etc.

DN got our TV, internet and phone bundle all lined up. 

My Mary Kay lady (also a lovely friend) came by to bring me some of the moisturizer I love.  I was telling her about the move (like several other people, she’s excited I will live closer to her and she will visit!!) .. one thing led to another … and she’s going to buy my desk!   So, one “big” item done.  Plus, she’s going to wait until close to moving date to get it, so I don’t have to set up a card table in here.  Also, she mentioned checking with her church to see if the youth group would be interested in helping with the move as a service project.

Later in the afternoon TGF called.  Her friend wanted to know if I’d ride with them to the landlord’s business to talk about the house.  TGF ended up not being able to go because she had an appointment with her new employer; but the friend, his girlfriend, and one of his kids came and picked me up.  When we got there, the landlord wasn’t there .. they never know, he sort of comes and goes as he pleases and has no “schedule”.  But I was prepared, and had written out a letter which I left for him.  The agreement would benefit everyone .. all 3 parties involved … IF the landlard agrees to it.

Still later, right at the “edge” of dark, the guy came by again (called first) because one of his older kids wanted to see the house.  She was impressed.  I talked to him more about a “deal”.  So if he does get the house .. I will give him the 2 small sofas, and he will have use of my items until I need them (which will be more than a year away at the least), and I can leave my things in the attic and take my time sorting.  Added bonus, they get to have a lot of the decorations!  And for anyone wondering .. I  will have it all spelled out in writing and try to get the signatures notarized. 

I also had to give in and ask for more gas … but they can deliver only 100 gallons (it’s a 250 gal tank), so the price will be within what is still on deposit with them.  That’s disappointing, because that much less refund I’ll get; but the tank is down to the red zone.  Even if I avoid cooking, I absolutely MUST have hot water!!

Late in the evening DN got very angry with me.  Unfortunately, a specific situation that I see as *optional*, she sees as purely *black-and-white*, and was furious with me for disagreeing with her.  She got over it, at least in part because I refused to allow her to stay mad or to be mad myself.  I gave her space to cool off first (and she later told me she didn’t know why she got so mad).  It’s OK.  I see it as my fault.  I know how she sees things, and I need to just let her have her point of view and (in my own mind at least) agree to disagree. It’s just another compromise I will have to make.  But I still see the benefits as FAR outweighing the downfalls.

We had lots of storms through the afternoon and evening.  Nothing here was “severe”, but it was rumbly most of the afternoon and evening; and we had several bouts of very heavy rainfall. It seems to make me a little uneasy; and I honestly didn’t do as much as I could have.  As I said, though, gradually things are getting accomplished.

Oh, and one more big hurdle.  I got a 2^nd email from the rental company about that e-signing.  The wording on it came across as threatening.  So I replied, again, but to the email in the signature.  Later the man called me, and we got it all straightened out.  I do have a lease to sign (I guess all I previously signed was the application); but he definitely stated I can do that any time before we move in.  I will find a way to get there one day and get that done .. maybe even one day next week if TGF can find time. 

The morning is on the verge of getting away from me again.  The majority of what I need to get done is in the back end of the house, and DN is still sleeping.  I need to go on and shower, and work on what I can for now.  Now that I have boxes .. in a variety of sizes .. I can pack up a lot of random things, especially in this room.  Perhaps I can get the excess yardsale stuff boxed up.  I’ve been avoiding that so it can be priced .. but … we are now looking into the possibility of a sale of the whole lot of it to a dealer.  I think there are a few things waiting to be packed for keep or storage, I can tackle those. And I can go on and pack up the books that are put aside to keep. 

I don’t like trying to do things when someone is still sleeping.  But I can’t afford to waste what little energy I have this morning! 

Note:  This morning DN apologized for yelling at me.  We agreed that when there is a disagreement - over anything - we will agree to disagree and LET IT DROP.  This is why I believe we will make this work.  There will be rough times .. but they will blow over and we will go forward!