Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Day 102

Day 102

Tuesday, July 9, 2014

The downside of writing in the morning, among others, is that I don’t realize until the day After that I missed wishing my sister a Happy Birthday.   Obviously I need to find a LOT better system!! My DIL has set up a shared Google calendar .. we just haven’t had the time to sit down together and set it to where it will send me email reminders.
Yesterday started slow, ended busier.  DGS15 and I were waiting for TGF to get here.  He helped me pull more things out from the “black hole” in the kitchen cabinets.  I didn’t want to get too involved just then,  as I thought she’d be along “any time”.  Well, she didn’t get here until 11:30ish.  (fortunately for me, the doctor apt she had for her youngest was postponed, so I didn’t get rushed through my shopping).  I got everything on my list.  I need to learn to make better lists! LOL!  But I didn’t miss anything “urgent”, so it’s OK for now. 
When we got back, we got the groceries unloaded and put up.  She and the 2 boys took the trash off.  I packed another box of candleholders; but didn’t do much else. 
DIL and 2 grands got here around 4:15 I think.  We pretty much just relaxed and visited.  DS got here later .. he came here from work, but not sur the time.  Supper was sandwiches, everyone on their own.  And, everyone settled in to sleep really early. 
Unfortunately, I was awake around 1:00 (might have had 3 hours sleep).  Everyone stirred a little then went back to sleep .. except me.  Just after 3:00 they all started getting up and getting things together, getting coffee and breakfast, etc.  They left here a little after 4:00 (AM).  Right now, DIL and the kids are most likely in the air and DS on his way to work.
Meantime … I didn’t get to sleep until sometime after 5:00, and woke up by 715.  So, I’m very groggy and don’t know how much I’ll get done today.  I really only have mostly today to finish getting out things for the yardsale, so it can be priced and loaded in boxes tomorrow.  Hoefully TGF is bringing DGS15 over to spend another day helping me.

There is still so much to do, it’s overwhelming and frightening.  There’s getting everything in and around the house dealt with .. meaning either packed, sold, given away, or trashed.  The packing I can mostly do, though with some things I need help.  The sell stuff will be partly dealt with at the yardsale; and after it, larger things will be listed again on FB yardsale sites.  The give away and trash stuff are the hardest to deal with, as no one really wants to bother with taking it away.  I’ve tried cleaning the outside area several times, and it keeps being a mess .. and I don’t know why.  It’s very scary to try to pick up trash when I can’t really see what it is I’m picking up … but asking the boys to do it is useless, because they don’t even see it at all!
There’s dealing with my car, one way or another.  I am OK, sort of, paying the insurance as long as I’m still dependant on someone using it to take me where I need to go (even though it usually has to be at their convenience).  But after I move, not any more.  I have to remember to do change of address for all the various insurances I do have to keep paying (life, health, drug, renters).  Actually, I’ll have to do a change of address with the bank (new checks), cell phone … don’t even know what else.  I don’t have to deal with utilities, just cancel what’s here … everything will be transferrd from DN’s old apt to the new one.  That’s fine, just a bit scary for when the time comes eventually when we no longer share.  Then I’ll have to come up with deposits to get things in my own name.  But that’s a future stress, not now.
Then there’s the actual move.  I’m trying very hard to get things packed; but I really don’t know how much space it will end up taking.  I don’t know how to calculate how big a trailer I’ll need, when to reserve it, etc.  And I’m terrified of not having help when I need it .. actual physical help to load and unload.  I’ve asked TGF to ask BGS16 to recruit friends – with the promise of pizza – but what if he either doesn’t, or “forgets” or there just isn’t anyone willing?  DN even put a blurb on FB (quite nicely worded) … but I have no idea if she got any response.
I have found a solution to one thing at least.  I’ve made arrangements for a lady to come give this house a good cleaning after everything is moved out and before the date I’ve given the landlord I’ll be out.  And the same lady now lives in the same town I’m moving to and is quite willing to come in once a month to clean the kitchen and bathroom (sort of a “back up” since DN doesn’t much care for cleaning and I can’t be sure I’m doing it well enough). 
I’ve moved many times before.  I don’t remember it being this much stress.  But then, I could see what I was doing better; I had younger sons who were willing and able (well, OK, able anyway) to help; and I have never lived anywhere as long as I’ve lived here (which means time to accumulate an awful LOT of stuff). 
Oh, and I need to find and rent a storage unit.  That will involve a second move, though hopefully with only a truck or two; or at least a smaller trailer. 
And once I’ve basicly moved to the apartment, everything else that needs to be done here means needing someone to come get me, bring me here, and then take me back.  I hate having to ask people to go to that much trouble, and there just isn’t any way around it.

I am in the process of getting at least one area under control, although it feels like it’s taking forever.  I feel like I’m drowning in paperwork.  I have to get it under control.  My DIL is helping me go through 3 separate file systems (why???) to consolidate all important papers into one portable file box.  Once that is set up .. and ALL the random boxes of papers sorted … the system will be that someone helps me with the mail (which will be DN once we move); everything important will go into a big envelope and weekly it will be mailed to DIL to file.  She will continue to keep up the Google calendar that will notify me of anything coming up I need to deal with or remember.

I know the biggest reason I feel so overwhelmed this morning is because I’m so very tired.  I think I’ll go on and get in the shower and get done whatever morning stuff I need (because of the odd timing, I just put the cat’s food on the porch; but I keep checking to make sure there’s no sign of the dogs.  I haven’t seen (heard) them close by for several days); I have washed up what was in the sink, and haven’t pulled out more to be washed up yet.  I think I’ll just sit and wait until DGS15 gets here … and probably nap until then

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