Day 102
Tuesday, July 9, 2014
The downside of writing in the morning, among others, is
that I don’t realize until the day After that I missed wishing my sister a
Happy Birthday. Obviously I need to
find a LOT better system!! My DIL has set up a shared Google calendar .. we
just haven’t had the time to sit down together and set it to where it will send
me email reminders.
Yesterday started slow, ended busier. DGS15 and I were waiting for TGF to get
here. He helped me pull more things out
from the “black hole” in the kitchen cabinets.
I didn’t want to get too involved just then, as I thought she’d be along “any time”. Well, she didn’t get here until
11:30ish. (fortunately for me, the doctor
apt she had for her youngest was postponed, so I didn’t get rushed through my
shopping). I got everything on my
list. I need to learn to make better
lists! LOL! But I didn’t miss anything “urgent”,
so it’s OK for now.
When we got back, we got the groceries unloaded and put
up. She and the 2 boys took the trash
off. I packed another box of
candleholders; but didn’t do much else.
DIL and 2 grands got here around 4:15 I think. We pretty much just relaxed and visited. DS got here later .. he came here from work,
but not sur the time. Supper was
sandwiches, everyone on their own. And,
everyone settled in to sleep really early.
Unfortunately, I was awake around 1:00 (might have had 3
hours sleep). Everyone stirred a little
then went back to sleep .. except me.
Just after 3:00 they all started getting up and getting things together,
getting coffee and breakfast, etc. They
left here a little after 4:00 (AM).
Right now, DIL and the kids are most likely in the air and DS on his way
to work.
Meantime … I didn’t get to sleep until sometime after 5:00,
and woke up by 715. So, I’m very groggy
and don’t know how much I’ll get done today.
I really only have mostly today to finish getting out things for the
yardsale, so it can be priced and loaded in boxes tomorrow. Hoefully TGF is bringing DGS15 over to spend
another day helping me.
There is still so much to do, it’s overwhelming and
frightening. There’s getting everything
in and around the house dealt with .. meaning either packed, sold, given away,
or trashed. The packing I can mostly do,
though with some things I need help. The
sell stuff will be partly dealt with at the yardsale; and after it, larger
things will be listed again on FB yardsale sites. The give away and trash stuff are the hardest
to deal with, as no one really wants to bother with taking it away. I’ve tried cleaning the outside area several
times, and it keeps being a mess .. and I don’t know why. It’s very scary to try to pick up trash when
I can’t really see what it is I’m picking up … but asking the boys to do it is
useless, because they don’t even see it at all!
There’s dealing with my car, one way or another. I am OK, sort of, paying the insurance as
long as I’m still dependant on someone using it to take me where I need to go
(even though it usually has to be at their convenience). But after I move, not any more. I have to remember to do change of address
for all the various insurances I do have to keep paying (life, health, drug,
renters). Actually, I’ll have to do a
change of address with the bank (new checks), cell phone … don’t even know what
else. I don’t have to deal with
utilities, just cancel what’s here … everything will be transferrd from DN’s
old apt to the new one. That’s fine,
just a bit scary for when the time comes eventually when we no longer
share. Then I’ll have to come up with
deposits to get things in my own name.
But that’s a future stress, not now.
Then there’s the actual move. I’m trying very hard to get things packed;
but I really don’t know how much space it will end up taking. I don’t know how to calculate how big a
trailer I’ll need, when to reserve it, etc.
And I’m terrified of not having help when I need it .. actual physical
help to load and unload. I’ve asked TGF
to ask BGS16 to recruit friends – with the promise of pizza – but what if he
either doesn’t, or “forgets” or there just isn’t anyone willing? DN even put a blurb on FB (quite nicely
worded) … but I have no idea if she got any response.
I have found a solution to one thing at least. I’ve made arrangements for a lady to come
give this house a good cleaning after everything is moved out and before the
date I’ve given the landlord I’ll be out.
And the same lady now lives in the same town I’m moving to and is quite
willing to come in once a month to clean the kitchen and bathroom (sort of a “back
up” since DN doesn’t much care for cleaning and I can’t be sure I’m doing it
well enough).
I’ve moved many times before. I don’t remember it being this much stress. But then, I could see what I was doing
better; I had younger sons who were willing and able (well, OK, able anyway) to
help; and I have never lived anywhere as long as I’ve lived here (which means
time to accumulate an awful LOT of stuff).
Oh, and I need to find and rent a storage unit. That will involve a second move, though
hopefully with only a truck or two; or at least a smaller trailer.
And once I’ve basicly moved to the apartment, everything
else that needs to be done here means needing someone to come get me, bring me
here, and then take me back. I hate
having to ask people to go to that much trouble, and there just isn’t any way
around it.
I am in the process of getting at least one area under
control, although it feels like it’s taking forever. I feel like I’m drowning in paperwork. I have to get it under control. My DIL is helping me go through 3 separate
file systems (why???) to consolidate all important papers into one portable
file box. Once that is set up .. and ALL
the random boxes of papers sorted … the system will be that someone helps me
with the mail (which will be DN once we move); everything important will go
into a big envelope and weekly it will be mailed to DIL to file. She will continue to keep up the Google
calendar that will notify me of anything coming up I need to deal with or
remember.
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