Day 186

Day 186
(Wednesday and) Thursday November 28, 2013
Physical:
On Wednesday he was cranky, but that might have been just left-over tired.  He refused to stay in bed, so it was "up-and-down" several times.  On Thursday he also insisted on getting up early  I believe that was because he somehow understood that company was coming, but wanted to "get home in time". He was upset that I put him in a chair "in church", but when peole came he was OK.
It was clear from his conversation that he was very disoriented, but everyone was good at playing along.  By the time I got him down for the night he was pretty exhausted! He ate a pretty good Thanksgiving dinner.
People:
The CNA came on Wednesday.  Late in the afternoon Fed-Ex finally picked u the old cycler.  And later DSS and TGF came by - she had gotten the rest of the groceries for me.
On Thanksgiving, some of the timing was "off", but all went well.  We had DSS, his girlfriend and all 4 of her boys, her mom, her sister, her brother-in-law, his 2 boys plus their little boy.  DSS's business partner and his wife came, very nice couple.  DS and his wife and 2 kids came.  So there was a total of 20 of us.  My only "regret" is that there is no room in my house for everyone to be "together".  DS and his family and I mostly stayed in the living room with DH (and watched a James Bond marathon loud enough to make ears bleed. :(  Hopefully for Christmas he will get a headset!!!).  Other than DS's 2 kids (boy and girl), the rest of the boys (ages 4 to 17) bounced back and forth between playing outside and the TV in the den.  Everyone else congregated in the kitchen (except DSS who was in a snit and didn't even come over til the last minute).  At one point DH tried to get up, though he was going to the back of the house to visit with more people.  I had to get DSS to come out and spend some time with his dad!  It was after 10:00 before DS and family left.  I was so glad they stayed, but also exhausted when they left.
Emotions:
I was very frustrated at not being able to have a "family meeting" as the nurse has been urging me to do.  Both my DIL and TGF had health issues; and as I said, DSS was in a bad mood and didn't even show up until last minute.  For that matter, TGF and her family did not get here as early as they had said they would, so it was a rush to get all the food ready.
I'm feeling sad and depressed this morning, but I know a lot of that is being tired.  DH is worn out, it's after 10:00 and he's still sleeping!  For the most part the house didn't get "destroyed", and I think I have most things put to rights.  I have to sort and put up a lot of flatware; and there is a huge mountain of dishes waiting (and some were done last night; in fact, one of the guests washed  a big load before she left, but almost all the serving dishes had not been emptied at that point).  There's not even very many left overs (although a turkey breast that we didn't have time to cook is in the oven now, so DH and I will at least have some turkey sandwiches!!).
I did get some time to talk to DIL, and they will try to come back during December; plus they are coming Christmas Eve.  DH has his next clinic then, and that will be good for them to go along since DSS has out of town company coming. 
My house is usually all decorated by now ... and I still have to pack u the fall stuff.  I really feel discouraged.  Maybe by tomorrow I can get the things paced up and at least make a start on Christmas.  I'm hoping it will brighten my mood to have my decorations up!